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Telling your children you are getting divorced

On Behalf of | Apr 1, 2024 | Divorce |

Breaking the news of your divorce to your children can be one of the most difficult aspects of the process.

It is important to communicate this news to your kids in a way that is sensitive and supportive.

Be honest and direct

According to the CDC, the divorce rate in Louisiana is 2.2 per 1,000 couples. When telling your children about your divorce, honesty is key. Be straightforward with them, while also being mindful of their age and maturity level. Avoiding the truth or sugarcoating the situation may only lead to confusion and distrust later on.

Choose the right time and place

Choose a time when everyone is calm and there are no distractions. Make sure you can have a meaningful conversation and answer any questions they may have. Choose a private setting where your children feel comfortable expressing their emotions.

Present a unified front

Even if you and your spouse are no longer on good terms, it is important to present a united front when telling your children about your divorce. Avoid blame or finger-pointing and present the decision as mutual. Assure your children that both parents will continue to love and support them.

Listen to their feelings

Children experience a range of emotions when they learn about their parents’ divorce, including sadness, anger and confusion. Encourage them to express their feelings openly and validate their emotions. Let them know that it is okay to feel upset.

Provide reassurance and stability

Divorce can be a time of uncertainty for children, so be sure to provide them with reassurance and stability wherever possible. Let them know that while some things may change, such as living arrangements, your love for them will remain constant. Stick to routines as much as possible and let them know that they will still have a strong support system in both parents.

Seek professional support if needed

If you feel that your children are struggling to cope with the news of your divorce, seek professional support. A therapist or counselor can help your children navigate their emotions and provide them with coping strategies.

Divorce is as hard on children as it is on the couple. How you break the news to your kids will have an impact on how they handle it.