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How can I help my kids deal with the divorce?

On Behalf of | Apr 17, 2023 | Child Custody |

Divorce is notoriously difficult for everyone involved. No matter the circumstances of your divorce, however, helping the kids cope with it should be your top priority. Remember, your children depend on you for pretty much everything, and when you split, they may be thrust into a world of uncertainty. 

For this reason, it is important that you and your spouse set aside your differences and work together to help your children navigate the turbulence that comes with divorce. Here are a few helpful tips you may want to consider:

Consider talking with someone 

Divorce can be emotionally overwhelming, and that is understandable. If you feel you need help addressing the impact of the divorce, and the aftershock, with your kids, consider engaging a professional counselor. It doesn’t matter how old they are, taking them for counseling can be a healthy way to help them deal with the divorce. 

Reassure them of your unconditional love

Divorce comes with uncertainties, especially because parents will no longer be living together. And this can be confusing to the kids. They may also assume that they are the reason for the divorce or that one or both parents will no longer love them as they used to. 

While you know this is not true, your kids may not be able to process it. Therefore, let them know that your divorce had nothing to do with them and that your love for them will not be impacted by the divorce. 

Encourage open communication

Encourage your children to share their feelings. Even if they don’t show it, keep in mind that divorce affects them just as it affects you too. While taking them for counseling is helpful, encouraging them to speak out is equally crucial.  

Your child’s best interests

Helping kids deal with divorce can be difficult, especially when you too are going through an emotional roller-coaster. With commitment and help, however, you and your children can make it through to the other side.